Who Am I As A Communicator

The ways that I perceived myself was not much differently than the way that my friend and my husband d perceived me as a communicator. They both actually had similar scores to what I had. The fact that they both perceived me similar to the way I perceived myself surprised me the most. It surprised me the most because I expected them to perceive me as a person who does not communicate in a way that gets my point across (more effectively) the way I need to. Some other insights that I gained this week about communication was the fact that there are several types of listeners, such as selfish listening, hurtful listening, and pseudolistening. Some other things that I learned is that effective listening creates opportunities. For example, good listeners don’t just avoid mistakes; they find opportunities that others might miss (O’Hair and Wieman, 2012, p.167).I also learned that I could be less aggressive when I communicate with others and that I take in consideration others feelings when I listen. Also I ended up actually being a people-oriented person which was the score both my husband and friend said about me, which really didn’t surprise me at all. Reference O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.